The word "persistent" means continuing firmly or obstinately in a course of action in spite of difficulty or opposition. For women recovering from cosex addiction, this can be tricky. Sometimes in our dis-ease we tolerate and tolerate and tolerate and tolerate, without a sense of self and good boundaries. Persistence in this regard is really feeding our dis-ease and not necessarily feeding our recovery and self-esteem. There is a time to hold on and a time to let go.

Persistence in our recovery, however, is something else. Looking inside, seeing our patterns of behavior, honestly reviewing our family of origin set-up, formally writing the 12 steps, using the tools of the program and being consistent in developing a support network is a good use of the energy of persistence. When we use persistence to embrace the obstacles along the way, walk through the shame and fear that we inevitably encounter-we reap the benefits of emotional and spiritual maturity. We develop the capacity to care well for ourselves and the ability to choose who we attract into our lives. Our persistence teaches us to trust ourselves above all others and from this trusted relationship with self, we choose how to care well for ourselves physically, emotionally, relationally, spiritually and financially.

Persistence with discernment and the perspective of our recovery support group makes all the difference.

Blessings on your journey,

Sally