Cosex Addiction, like all addictions, eats away at our self-esteem and ability to care for ourselves in loving and responsible ways. In any addictive behavior, our energy is tied into how to fill "the emptiness within" regardless of whether we use a substance or over focus on someone else's behavior. The automatic patterns of behaving that we learned by default to survive our family systems and dysfunctional societal conditioning become a way of living. We are tied to cycles of drama and try as we might to break free, it is only possible when we accept our powerlessness over our own behavior and that of others and then connect with a Higher Power who can assist.

In admitting powerlessness over these painful dynamics in ourselves and our relationships, we surrender to another possibility for life. In this new possibility, we embrace a Spiritual Power greater than ourselves and begin to experience hope. Our world begins to open up and we see with new eyes, hear with new ears and begin to welcome the synchronicity of the journey to emotional and spiritual maturity. We begin to have choice over our behavior and learn to use our own energy wisely.

The journey into recovery encourages our descent into honest reflection of who we are and who we are not. We begin to take responsibility for our own choices and feel the grief of authentic losses in our life. Caring for ourselves becomes a way of life and a priority. From this fullness of self-esteem and self-love, we are able to give to others with discernment and care. Our energy is freed to pursue our own dreams rather than chasing unavailable relationships and our creativity finds expression in the world.

It is one of the many paradoxes of 12 step recovery that when we fully embrace our powerlessness, we are able to fully receive our own power. We are able to see our choices more clearly, our energy is ours to use as we desire and we are aware of the workings of our Higher Power to assist us on the path.

Powerlessness leads to Possibilities beyond our imaging.

Blessings on your journey,

Sally