In our 12 step work,  there is a step that asks us to do a searching and fearless moral inventory. Wow. In word alone it's rather daunting. I can understand searching fairly easily. It means extensive and to look carefully. But the idea of doing so fearlessly doesn't sit right with me. I think it is actually difficult and even improbable that one can do anything of great value and requiring courage fearlessly. I think that's what makes it great and effortful. It requires us to take on the task at hand in spite of the fear we may have. It is walking through the fear of it that offers us the greatest reward. It is the fear we must act in spite of that calls from within us our most extraordinary self.

When you explore the origin of the word fear, it is connected to the Old English word revere. To revere something is to admire it and hold deep respect. Perhaps it is, therefore, appropriate to hold in respect the things that we fear. In our patriarchal culture which sometimes calls us to divide and conquer, we've not given fear the place in our lives that it deserves. In our divide and conquer mentality, fear has been avoided and plowed through without consideration for the knowledge it has for us. There is something to be respected about the things that we fear. Fear can be a message of wisdom for us. It can teach us and guide us in knowing where there may be danger, how to avoid and avert it and perhaps, even, when to walk right through it and receive the gifts of getting to the other side. 

There is much to learn and explore in the area of fear. One thing is for sure. We can learn much from the places that fear shows up. We can find our own courage from within when asked to confront our fears. We can assess what our commitments and values are when fear is present. And we can also learn about discernment. This will guide us in how to hold the fear within and when to avoid a situation or walk, with courage and heart, right on through.

I know so many who believe that fear is bad and to be avoided. They belief it keeps us from living powerfully and freely. 

I say that fear is a gift, one that teaches us respect and discernment. Fear offers us the opportunity to choose which direction to take and how to evoke spiritual resources to assist us. Fear is the bestower of wisdom and distinguishes what our senses are offering to us. It is to be respected and honored for the information it provides. 

Doing an inventory, looking within, uncovering hidden places inside of ourselves that keep us bound up takes great courage. Not because we do so fearlessly but because we do so with the fear and in spite of it. 

Blessings on your journey to befriend your fear, 

Sally