The word remember has a Latin base which means to be mindful. It is a good thing to be. Mindfulness requires presence.In mindfulness, we are aware and conscious.

We've often also heard the term forgive and forget. I assert to forgive and remember is even better.Not that forgive and forget isn't something to strive for and attempt to achieve, it is. I think, however, that forgiving and remembering is even more of a challenge and quite honestly, more noble as well. To be mindful of what someone did, the transgression or betrayal perpetrated and still to forgive, well, this is truly a worthy act. If I stay fully present to a hurtful act and still forgive the individual, there is maturity and sophistication here and perhaps, it is the greatest shield from inviting the offense a second or third time. We remember our lesson learned and navigate through relationships with additional wisdom and seasoning.

So, while forgiving and forgetting is a worthy cause, forgiving and remembering is an act of great courage and love. It implies knowing full well and choosing kindness and love. It's quite honestly a step above and beyond forgetting and brings us fully into mindfulness and choice.

If you have struggled with the notion of forgive and forget as I have and questioned your moral values, then take comfort. Perhaps you knew all along that there was a better way where you could honor your intuition and experience and still enjoy the benefits of high ideals. Forgive and remember brings the wisdom of the experience with you as your teacher and allows for a mindful interaction with those who have hurt you.

Take heed. You are not alone.

Blessings,

Sally