The principles of 12 step spirituality, when applied to living day to day, keep us connected to our own personal power and the unlimited power of the Divine. Once we "make a decision...." to turn any situation over to our Higher Power, we release the outcome, relax into knowing this Power has our best at heart and open to the synchronistic events that continually point us in the direction of Divine guidance and care.

We begin with doing our part, however. Our part is spending time in prayer and meditation daily. Our part is bold self-care behaviors. Our part is putting forth effort in the direction of our dreams and desires. Our part is seeking support and aligning ourselves with like-minded people. Our part is seeing that we are powerless over others.

When we "make a decision to turn our will and lives over the care of God and we understand Her or Him" it is after we have done our part and sought out what we have a choice about and what we must let go of.

We are never alone. The 12 steps give us tools for living a spiritual life. Once our own addictive behaviors and dynamics are addressed and arrested, we become open to the promises of the 12 steps. When we release our own co-dependency and over focus on others, accepting responsibility for ourselves, we open to a relationship with a Higher Power and ourselves. The miracles of living a Divinely guided, purpose and destiny focused life become the norm of our existence.

All my love,

Sally

With cosexaddiction, as with any addiction, there is a desire for control and power. The only way the addictive self thinks control or power is available is through the addictive pattern. Sex addiction, control, codependency, eating disorders, alcohol abuse and all other addictive patterns are simply a form of control or an attempt at control.

Admitting powerlessness is not an admission of no power-it is in fact, a doorway through which power can be sought. This spiritual power includes freedom and choice.

When we are able to admit our powerlessness over another person's choices and behaviors, we gain the freedom and power to choose our own actions.

When we are able to admit our powerlessness over our own addictive thinking and behavior, we gain freedom and power to use our time and energy as we desire.

In the surrender of addictive dynamics in both thought and deed, we embrace the spiritual flow of power and guidance that is available to us. When our attachments to old addictive thoughts and behaviors is present, we block this spiritual energy.

Today we claim the true spiritual power that comes from surrender to old attachments. Daily prayer and meditation will assist us in knowing when to surrender these attachments and with whom. As we surrender and release, our true spiritual power is made manifest. Our energy, our thoughts and our actions belong to us and we are free to use for service and contribution.