"Pletcher and Bartolameolli are undisputed experts on the subject of co-sex addiction.  They know more about it than anyone I know and have presented  an expose that with great clarity supersedes anything I have read before."

– John Bradshaw

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Greetings from France

I am here researching for next book about Sacred Divine Spirituality. Really, it is about having voice coming from the Feminine. The Basilica of Mary Magdalene is here which is why I am here. She is Spiritual mentor and teacher for me.

One of the premises of handling our addictions in recovery is that when this energy is freed, we are also freed. We are free to pursue our soul's work and our spiritual purpose. As we define 'addiction' as the giving over of ones self to a habit, we know that this 'habit' is fed and we must keep vigilant to keep it so.

When we authentically embrace our addictions and do the work from our family set up and societal set up as women, we have our energies released and can be present emotionally and spiritually for the pursuit of more virtuous and joy-filled work to do. We can 'listen' in our prayer and meditation time for the ways in which our Guides/Higher Power/Spiritual Source is calling us to make a difference in the world. This comes to us by following our heart's deepest desires and nurturing these desires and callings in our prayer and meditation time. Surrendering our addictions and keeping our dis-ease in remission is the necessary foundation for this next step in spiritual maturity.

So, there is greater purpose to doing our 'grief work', embracing our addictions, and using the 12 steps to heal and reclaim our authentic selves. The greater purpose is to find the deep desires in our heart and claiming our unique service and purposeful expression in the world. This is revealed to us through our time in prayer and meditation and in listening to Sacred Feminine Divine speak to us.

Breathe deeply and listen for your inspiration and guidance from Her.

Blessings on the journey,



Monday, June 9, 2008

Our Book Signing was fun and a great success!

Good morning to all,

I am writing from West Africa and thinking of our book signing just two and one half days ago.

My co-author, Claudine, knew that I was leaving for 7 weeks to Nigeria and wanted us to have our close friends and family gathering for books signing. It was great fun. I was touched that so many came out at such short notice and were so joyful to share the experience with us.

One of the great sadnesses in my life is how this dis-ease of Co-sex addiction claims women's ability and chose to have authentic connections to one another. In the disease, we see ourselves as competing for a man. Learning to live authentically also means learning to trust and with so many of us having difficulty trusting, we do not know how to connect, reach out and support the successes and dreams of our women friends and sisters. Each of us have a mother as well and so we must also understand the ways we have been hurt and wounded in our relationship with our mother and be willing to walk the courage journey of healing this relationship. Often, this is the hardest work we do on our this Spiritual Journey. We go to our family of origin relationships and are honest with ourselves, break the enmeshment and recreate this relationship with those who raised us. If this does not happen, women will try to work these issues out with other women and again, interrupt and interfere with the creation of authentic, close and honest relationships with one another.

This journey of healing emotionally, spiritually, physically, intellectually and relationally is a courage one that teaches authentic self love and healthy love for others, most especially our sisters.

So, it was especially gratifying and joyful to witness so many of our sisters and friends who came to support this launching and success of our book. There was laughter, acknowledgment, appreciation and authentic connection all around.

This is powerful testament of a woman's maturity; her ability and willingness to honor and join in the joyful celebration of another woman's accomplishment and success.

As a reflection exercise in your own life, look to see if you are able to have joy for your own successes, receive honor and blessings from others for these accomplishments and offer your joy and appreciation to other women in their dreams and achievements. It is a great 'measurement' of your own healing and maturity in your authentic connections with women.

Please join in the discussion, share your perspective and ask for support at;

With love,

Sally and Claudine

Tuesday, June 3, 2008

The book is Launched and Convention was great!

Greetings Visitors,

The convention in Seattle was so much fun! We were able to do our presentation on Friday on Co-Sex addiction and it was enjoyable to have such vibrant and open participants. We also found that many were very responsive and understood so many of the dynamics of co-sex addiction and the set-up for both women and men.

Looking at marketing and the sexualization and eroticizing of young children was especially troublesome for all of us, but there seemed to be a renewed interest in making a difference here. This is a great web site for information on lesson plans and how to address these issues and educate others about it; This is a great resource to look at how to combat the advertising industry and bring awareness to this issue of sexualizing women and eroticizing children.

Co-sex addiction isn't just about a woman addicted to a man addicted to sex or in same sex relationships one addicted to the other who is addicted to sex. It is about the ways in which we use one another and things outside ourselves to fill the emptiness within. The answer is a spiritual one and we are so grateful to have the opportunity to support the answer and make a difference in this dis-ease and disorder.

The great news is that once we address the addictive dynamics in our own lives, we are able to free that energy and pursue our passions, our dreams and our unique ways of being in service in the world.

With love and blessings on your journey,

Sally and Claudine